How To Indulge And Win The Battle Of The Bulge During The

By: Joey Dweck

If you are trying to lose weight, the holidays literally are the
heaviest time of the year.

So how do you eat, drink and be merry while you're counting
every single calorie? By getting a buddy who will help you make
the right choices bite by bite.

Scientific studies have shown that people who diet with partners
are much more likely to lose weight and to keep it off. And
there's no more crucial time to have a buddy on your side than
from Thanksgiving to New Year's.

"During the holidays, you can use all the help you can get,"
says Alan Gettis, a nutritionist and clinical psychologist in
River Edge, N.J. "I urge my clients to get a full-time
year-round a buddy, it could be a husband or a wife, a neighbor
or a friend. I But don't wait for the first feast to find a
buddy, says Susan Holmberg, a nutritionist and behavioral
therapist in Oradell, N.J. "Once you start overeating, you don't
want a "Buddy," she says.

Buddies give you moral support and help you identify bad eating
habits and patterns because they have been there, too, she says.
"You may want to have more than one buddy," she says. "You can
have one on the phone and one who exercises with you and goes to
parties with you. You can make deals with your buddy where you
both go to the party but only one of you goes through the buffet
line or where you agree to split one meal."

Buddies also are like therapists and coaches, who listen to you
and keep you on the right path. "Your buddy should be a person
you can share your feelings with and rely on in a pinch without
fear that your feelings will be used as ammunition against you,"
Gettis says.

Holmberg says that using a "Buddy" is particularly helpful to
people who may be reluctant to change because those who sign on
can choose a either real-life buddy, someone in their
geographical area they can meet and exercise with, or select
someone to work with solely online or via the phone. "Sometimes
anonymity is good," she says. "You are much more likely to try
it if you don't have to meet the person."

Gettis points out that with a "Buddy", "you can find someone
with similar goals, and both of you can support each other."

Buddies also take on active roles, getting you to stop a bad
habit and replace it with a healthy one. Gettis likens the
process to a marathon, where the runners are tempted to give up
before the 26th mile because it is so difficult to stay the
course. "The 18- to 19-mile mark is the crucial one," he says.
"During a marathon I was once in, I came upon two guys running -
one was hurting, and the other was encouraging him to keep
running. I followed them for two to three miles, and the one
kept saying, 'Leave me.' The other kept saying, 'I'm not going
to.' And I thought, 'What great friends!' Then I heard the one
hurting say, 'What's your name?'"

Perhaps the most important role that buddies play is helping
plan strategies and then making sure that you make them work.
"They can teach you to take baby steps and to change your
environment," Holmberg says. "For instance, they may suggest
that you keep sneakers in your trunk or put on your gym clothes
as you leave the office so you don't have an excuse not to
exercise. They can call ahead to the party to check on the menu
and give you a low-cal recipe to bring so there's at least one
thing that you can eat."

Holmberg says that some of the changes are so simple that people
overlook them. A buddy may, for instance, suggest that you get
at the end of the buffet line so there is less food available or
help the host wash dishes because if your hands are wet, you are
less likely to nibble on the last remaining crumbs from the
serving dishes. "If you are asked to bring dessert, your buddy
may remind you not to make chocolate chip cookies because the
last time you ate a dozen cookies before you brought them to the
party and nibbled the chips while baking and suggest that
instead you make something like a pie that can't be nibbled
because it is cut only when served."

Buddies also can help you practice being assertive, not
aggressive to make significant changes in your diet and your
lifestyle. "By being assertive, you attack the task," Gettis
says. "By being aggressive, you attack the person. You need to
stand your ground and in a firm but angry voice say: 'I really
would appreciate it if you would not bring home anything
fattening. You may have had good intentions, but I'd feel better
if you didn't do it again.'"

So don't wait until you're boxed in by back-to-back parties and
surrounded by wall-to-wall goodies to find a buddy. Make an
early New Year's resolution to do it now, long before the
marathon feasts begin, Gettis says. "You have to be realistic,
so don't count on losing 10 to 12 pounds during the holidays.
Don't say you'll lose 10 pounds during the holidays, and don't
gain 10 either. And get someone to be your buddy for all 12
months of the year. You have nothing to lose - but weight."

Copyright Weight Loss Buddy Press 2005

About the author:
Joey Dweck is the Founder & CEO of WeightLossBuddy.com a website
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